How to Have Sex Without Your Parents Knowing

1.Consider the risks. If you think your parents would be upset to find you sexually active, it is quite possible there are some very good reasons for that.

• Risks involved with sex range from pregnancy to sexually transmitted diseases, general health concerns and psychological repercussions. Dealing with all this is a big responsibility which can be much easier to face with a parent’s support.
• In sneaking around you always take the risk of getting caught. Keep in mind it’s more than likely your parents will find out in the end. It’s best if they hear it from you instead of finding out the hard way.

 2.Make the right decision. No matter what you decide, just make sure you think about it long and hard first.

• Think carefully about whether sneaking around is entirely necessary. What makes you think your parents would react so badly? They might be more understanding than you think, especially if you approach the subject with confidence and maturity.
• Be certain you are going through all this for the right reasons. Is your desire a natural manifestation of truly being ready for sex, or a response to outside pressure and expectations? If there is any confusion about this, consider holding off until the answer is clearer.
• Consult a trusted friend for guidance. Preferably an older sibling or someone in your life who has experience with sex and can discuss it with you from an adult perspective. Share your feelings and your plans. Consider their experiences and advice before moving forward.
• Talk to your partner. Make sure you are both on the same page about things. You are going to need his or her full cooperation in order to keep your activities a secret.
• Find out if your partner’s parents could handle the news. If so, talk to them. This kind of thing really does go a lot more smoothly if somebody’s parents know what is going on.

3.Visit a gynecologist. All sexually active females should see a gynecologist at least once per year for cancer tests, STD screenings and birth control. Most young women do not have reasons to visit the gynecologist before becoming sexually active so it might be hard to get your parents’ support without blowing your cover. This is an important part of safe sex, and one more benefit to having a parent on your side. Ladies, if you can think of way to get to a gynecologist, make it your business to do so.

4.Choose a reliable means of protection. It is best to combine methods if you want to prevent pregnancy as well as STDs. Keep in mind that nothing is going to cover 100% of the risk. An ideal combination is condoms and hormonal birth control. Condoms should be considered essential either way. Research their proper use for increased effectiveness.

• Free condoms are available to the public at places like Planned Parenthood, the Department of Social and Health services, and some schools. Stash them in your locker or any secure hiding place that is safe from prying eyes. Always keep more condoms than you think you will need, but do not use them after the expiration date stamped on the package.

5.Prepare yourself mentally. Lying may seem easier than being up front, but pulling it off takes a lot of quick thinking and mental energy. Sneaking around means elaborate plans, fake alibis, and tall cover-ups. This comes more naturally to some people than others. There is no room for error if you are going to do it right. If not, you might as well just tell your parents everything right now.